
Amy Chua's Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, her book on extreme parenting that drives children to succeed at all costs, has sparked a flurry of controversial responses, a recent article in The Atlantic by Sandra Tsing Loh being one of them. Loh does not defend the ever-demanding Tiger Mother who believes in learning by rote, rigorous academic drills, and what can be mildly deemed a "forceful" approach to parenting. Instead, she asks us to feel compassion for parents who use this approach. For, while their children do "succe

Hard work, Loh acknowledges, is valuable, no doubt about it. But what do we have after we've reached perfection (another A+, a pile of Ivy League acceptance letters, a perfect report card)...is anything left? It depends on what drove the student to make sacrifices in the first place. Often, an overbearing parental presence will get us to a certain destination, but not much further. Students accepted by Harvard and Princeton, those who major in astrophysics and international economics, graduates who put in the hours at investment banking firms - have they gotten what they wanted? Perfection is not genius, and Beethoven didn't have a Tiger parent drilling him every waking hour of his childhood - though he certainly had the family connections. The bottom line is, practice and excellence certainly produce benefits. As for art, curiosity, innovation - these often get put on the back burner in today's rigorous race to be perfect.
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Very interesting post! I'd say the "I'm going to fail unless I do this for myself" mentality has personally pushed me to work hard and never give up. Luckily, it also makes the end result that much more satisfying when I do it for myself. Parents pushing only gets us so far. We have to want it ourselves.
Can't wait for the next post!
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